I love when I get the chance to yap on the phone with my bestie. She just be letting me go and the next thing you know 2 hours has passed and she has to put her toddler down for a nap.
Today she asked me if I believe in “right person, wrong timing” and I firmly told her “no” because I don’t.
I believe that all timing is perfect and in God’s perfect will for our lives. I think that we interact with specific people for a specific reason for a specific amount of time and clinging to them or clinging to the idea that it should’ve been or could’ve been different had the timing been different is bondage. It keeps you stuck in the idea of should’ve, could’ve, would’ve and that in itself can be heart shattering so it’s not something I subscribe to. I’ve learned to take everything for exactly what it is/was. I don’t let my imagination run away with me. It is what it is. And it is what it ain’t.
I proceeded to tell her that I believe that if you find gratitude for every experience that you have with someone especially in the case of a failed romance, you’re able to see it through a clear lens. You’re not blinded by an idea of something that never happened. It frees your soul up for more experiences and more people. Gratitude allows you to find the good despite external circumstances preventing you from being together. No hard feelings and no confusion. Gratitude allows you to find a positive perspective in something that could be seen as negative. Gratitude for experiences with people especially if there was no conflict changes your perspective to something positive. It allows you to see the good in things. Even if it’s an ending
Believing in right person, wrong timing frames things from a perspective of lack because they might’ve been the right person, but they’re not the only person ya know?
With that being said, I believe that what’s for you won’t pass you by. So maybe not now, doesn’t mean not ever and if you’re absolutely supposed to be with a specific person, the universe will allow for alignment so that you can be together. I do believe that. But I wouldn’t sit around holding my breath waiting for that to happen either.
Lastly, you might meet your right person and find out that who you thought was the right person was wrong all along
Introverted and anti-social 